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Yes, life is sometimes hard but we can rise above what happens with our attitude and, like the shoe salesmen, how we view the situation.
Robert S. Life is hard because of chemistry. The natural tendency of everything is to head to disorder, to entropy. The ancient Greeks understood this and called it Chaos. Entropy can be countered by putting energy into a system to impose order.
We find life to be hard because we try to impose some order so that we can live a more comfortable existence. Yet entropy still occurs; the car needs repairs, our partner does not want to be with us, our favorite restaurant closes, the stock market goes down. A good way to start dealing with this is knowing and understanding that disorder will naturally occur and that we will have to put in the energy, which is hard.
Once one understands that they can start working on the things they can control to make the most out of the things they cannot. They can also learn to calm their anxiety through strategies such as Zen, or more colloquially, not sweating the small stuff. One can then make peace with the universe and then try to do the best they can with the cards they are dealt. If we are truly honest with ourselves, no matter who you are, where you live and whatever your income and status, we have all asked this question.
Coffee spilled on your outfit first thing in the morning as you rush out the door to why did my best friend get sick and pass away unexpectedly? For a lot of us, we start to think we were dealt a bad hand as one thing after another knocks us down and we fear what tomorrow will bring. What is the way out? Hiding in your bedroom only always us to escape reality for a brief time.
We all tried it, but you eventually have to face the world. Then there are the famous, encouraging words that everyone feels will make everything better…. Yeah ok, my wife just blindsided me with a divorce and my dad just passed away within a month and you want me to be strong! Thanks, I feel better now, and life is now just peachy. Life is hard if that is the only way we view it. The key word is Life. Changing our perspective just might be the first thing we can do to change or shift our thoughts to living a more happier or peaceful life.
We tend to live a rigid life. We get up each morning with our daily routine. We eat, we work, take care of family business if we have that, and we go to bed knowing that tomorrow will be exactly as the day before.
If anything interferes with our life playlist, it usually comes across as a problem normally viewed as hard. Living in this kind of comfort zone sets us up to miss life in general. We miss out on the little things. Enjoying that cup of coffee because I got up a half hour early, instead of getting up late and rushing out the door and spilling most of it on ourselves.
It might be cliche but living in the present moment opens us up to a life of gratitude, joy and most importantly, balance. Every successful person faces obstacles and challenges. I notice that they seldom complain about the difficulties in their path. They know that the real world is messy and unpredictable. They know that the messiness is masking opportunity and they trust in themselves to be able to find that opportunity. They tend to see those challenges as a test — a test that will shape their personal resilience.
Personal resilience is one of the 20 micro skills of strategic thinking, described in my new book, How to Think Strategically. Strategic thinkers enjoy learning and using their imagination. They practice deliberately other micro skills such as curiosity, storytelling, and empathy.
They have a growth mindset and through it, they can overcome whatever difficulties that they face. They are energized by the idea that their contributions to their organizations matter to the future. Did surviving the attack enhance his ambition and grit, changing him from an ordinary, unremarkable, seafaring merchant to one with the drive to act on his big idea?
A resilient person is inventive. She faces up to the challenges and goes to work to develop solutions. She confident and is not satisfied with mediocrity. A resilient person is also innovative. She develops a support network of people to share information. She tests new ideas out with them and solicits feedback. She strives to hold the big picture while working in the details.
This is a great parenting strategy and a loving notion, but what if we have created generations of young adults that do not possess the resiliency and true grit that is obtained from facing barriers and obstacles; and that is undoubtedly needed in order to make it in the world?
The world is not a fair and nice place, and most people say they know that life is not fair, or have heard it from their parents, but do they really know this and accept it?
A lot of people do not have what it takes to face negativities like maltreatment, rejection, and uncertainty, because they have never had to. I am not suggesting that most people have grown up with the proverbial silver spoon, what I am saying is watching our parents struggle through the perils and pains of life does not mean that we learned how to effectively handle the perils and pains of life.
There are a lot of people that have not had to ever make a difficult decision on their own, or try something new, or challenge themselves in any way because the majority of their life someone did it for them or was there to cosign and support.
Some people have never tried something new or ventured outside of their comfort zone, they only did the things that would guarantee their success. I have known people that remain unhappily married because they married a person they knew would say yes to their proposal!
When challenges and life stressors inevitably arise in their life there is no skill set or tools in their toolbox to get them through, and there is a feeling of being stuck and overwhelmed with no way out. The good news is that people can overcome this by accepting; I mean really accepting; those bad things will; and often do happen to good people, period. There is no special exception or easy way out or life hack. We have to accept that there is always positive and negative, yin and yang, good and evil, this is spiritual law.
We do not control when the sun comes up or when it rains, and we definitely cannot control other people. This usually is the hardest concept to digest and accept, because our egos make us feel as if we are super important to the world.
We must accept that we cannot make people stay, make them love us, or make them give us what we need. We create a life devoid of negative experiences and emotions. After the acceptance, the next step is to welcome the challenges, the barriers, the rejection, the uncomfortableness with vigor, grit, and anticipation!
Understanding, not only that difficult times are guaranteed and temporary, and you will always have to endure the positive and negative consequences of your actions and mistakes. And we all received values, morals and some great characteristics from our parents that will aid us in becoming resilient strong individual that is able to handle whatever comes your way!
Founder, Nextpat. Modern life can be stressful. Given how often people search for Why is Life so Hard? So, why is it so hard? Figure out what is difficult and break it down. Approach it in chunks that are more approachable. Along with how you are going to respond to the chunks, put what measures of success you have for these actions. What does a decrease in difficulty look like? What does the action working look like? Scientific evidence regarding feedback loops shows that as you recognize the small wins you break down the task in front of you creating a virtuous loop with the baby steps.
But rather, can you see the difficulty as an opportunity or a challenge to be conquered, whatever motivates you to change it. Do you remember the blog Days of Awesome? Trying to capture those and find new things every day, puts you on a quest that focuses on things other than the difficulties. Coaches can help guide you through some of the practices above, hold you accountable, and tailor your solutions. At Nextpat, we work specifically with returning expatriates on developing plans to integrate their changed identities back home — finding community and support and remembering to be kind to themselves on their journey home.
Nate Battle. When life seems hard and almost unbearable, too often the reason stems from an issue inside of us, instead of an external source. As humans, in life, we form expectations on how we think and believe things should be or occur.
A question that begs to be asked is why would we form an expectation around something we have absolutely no control over in the first place. I refer to this reoccurring futile process as Expectation Prison.
We put ourselves in there remaining locked inside this emotional cage, feeling stuck, punished unfairly and held captive in a fictitious enclosure of difficulty that we alone have created. The tension increases with each missed expectation building up into an overwhelming feeling of a life that is too hard and unfair.
We then find ourselves spiraling downward in a well of disappointment after disappointment until we feel completely trapped. What got us there? Our own expectations. Hence the name Expectation Prison. It is a mental, not physical cage that we have confined ourselves to. We are the only ones with the key and the door locks for the inside! You must become willing to let go of your expectations on how you think things should be and simply accept them as they come and for what they are.
This is a matter of deciding in your mind that you will no longer be held captive to the mental images you created of how you think the world should exist. Embracing the fact that you have no authorship or claim to creating, controlling or ruling over any of it. You can only influence and control yourself.
Related: How to Stop Worrying about Everything. By letting go of your confined expectations you then reward yourself a pardon from mental death row. This is clemency that you can give to yourself anytime you choose — no questions asked. The only thing you are guilty of is putting yourself in Expectation Prison in the first place. For instance, the challenges we meet as children shape us into more capable adults.
When something we want is beyond our reach, we learn to use a ladder, ask the help of a taller person or do without. Should we long to acquire an expensive item, we find a way to earn enough money to make the purchase. And because we had to work for it, we value it more. Some difficulties yield sad outcomes and may not have an obvious positive flip side. But by living through hard times, we come to appreciate when things get easier. Only by living through the dark can we truly appreciate the light.
So, when life seems too hard to bear, seek reasons to be grateful. By virtue of the fact that you are alive, aware and breathing, you can often find inspiration for gratitude.
When we realize that life is a journey filled with the boring, the good, and the bad we can see that our problems are simply a part of all that. It requires a change in perception, to see that our problems can help us turn into our best selves if we take the time to learn and grow from them. Lastly, to become a solution minded person changes how you live and see life because when problems, circumstances, and setbacks come your way you jump at finding a solution instead of panicking.
Life is hard, but what I have found is that we are stronger. You can bounce back even when you get knocked down; keep choosing to never give up. Brian Benson. Advertising that can make us feel less than whole and send messages that we need to buy their product to become lovable. Social media has also trained us to see only the best of others, while we, unfortunately, compare that with the worst of ourselves.
Please remember that you are perfect and enough just the way you are. Comparing yourself with others benefits no one. I used to compare myself to others as I started out and it would leave me feeling depressed, unworthy and unsure of my next step. Once I realized that my set of tools, gifts, and experiences, were my superpower, everything started to fall into place.
I let go of worrying about what everyone else was doing and began to trust my uniqueness. I want others to trust their own unique set of tools, gifts, and experiences as well. Once we can begin to love and accept ourselves for who we are and what we have to work with everything seems to fall into place and life will become a whole lot easier. Beverly Willett. Somehow over the last several decades, our entire society has been set on a non-stop thirst for happiness.
There are two places we look for it — in things and in people. But things can never provide lasting happiness. If so, why would a Hollywood millionaire ever wind up repeatedly in rehab? Why is Lori Loughlin facing jail time? Just look at what our over-consumption is doing to the planet. That leaves people. Look at the divorce rate. Even for couples who remain together, relationships are never completely rosy.
So why is life so hard? We look outside ourselves when the only source is inside. By contrast when we commit to a steady practice of developing inner peace we can actually feel ourselves growing happier even when disappointments arise.
Lisa Krohn. What makes something hard for one person may not be interpreted by others in the same way. If I see and feel my life is hard does not mean that others perceive my life in the same way. This is a paramount point in addressing, healing, and overcoming our negative perspective about our life.
If not, then reflect, back on the past. What happened, why did I feel this way and what did I do about? If not, then assess why your life is so hard. Be pragmatic. Make a list of why you think and feel your life is so hard. Be pro-active about the tangible acts you can create by yourself and with help to make changes that will enable you to lessen the harshness and whatever you are feeling.
Give yourself permission to feel the pain, uncomfortableness, and whatever negative thoughts you are having and feeling. Please note this is not about self-pity to the contrary. This exercise is to validate what you are going through. The success of this exercise is to be extremely prescient and dwell in this place for no more than 5 minutes ever!
Just accept them. I know you are here for a reason and I am to learn lessons by feeling this way. Escort these thoughts and feelings from your mind and body visually. Say goodbye and thank them for the lessons you have learned by having them come. Nick Hatter. It is a fact that evil exists and bad things happen. Life becomes even harder when we fail to accept the inherent imperfection nature of the world, of people, of organizations, of situations, etc.
Life can also be made more difficult when we try to change what cannot be changed and this only leads to frustration and feeling disempowered. To make life easier, we must focus on the things we can change — and accept the things that cannot be. When we do this, we stop being the victim, and we become an empowered victor. The issue is though, our ego likes to hold on to resentments which can eat us up on the inside and can lead to depression and addiction.
Unless we choose to forgive and let go, life will always be much harder than it needs to be. The best thing is to get the poison out of your system by forgiving the person who has harmed you. Accepting that everyone is imperfect and is on their journey, and separating the actor from the action is a great step to forgiveness.
Finally, trying to live our lives entirely on our own self-will will make life infinitely harder. It is too exhausting to be in control of everything and everyone and all situations — not to mention that as a human being, you are very likely to make mistakes. Thus, we must practice the art of conscious surrender to a power greater than ourselves, a higher power that we can trust in — some may call this the Universe or God.
The alternative is to become workaholic and burnout — which makes life even harder. For many years, I thought life was really hard. Along the way, every little thing annoyed me. Traffic, people, the weather. But after the death of a friend, a number of life-changing books like The Surrender Experiment , The Obstacle is the Way , and The Alchemist , and a course in Buddhism , I discovered that life was, in fact, giving me exactly what I required.
Life was giving me exactly what I needed to become the greatest and most joyful version of myself. The only problem was that I was fighting against every single experience that was happening instead of accepting the moment for what it was.
It poured on my beach vacation and I accepted it as it was and curled up with a good book and a hot cup of tea and found that I needed that far more than the kayaking adventure I had planned.
I lost my job and accepted it as the push I needed to find out what it was that I really wanted to do with my life. I accepted each obstacle as an opportunity. And my outlook on life changed. I went from thinking that life was so hard into thinking that life was such an adventure!
If we do nothing beyond learn from the world around us, we see all things put forth an effort to survive and thrive. The seed must struggle out of its case just as the chick must work to get out of the shell. What does this mean for us? It means we must either grow or die. We cannot stand still and stay comfortable in a world that is always in motion. Knowing this, we can look at a difficult life not as something to fear or a reason to be depressed, but rather as an exciting challenge that nature has given us in order to become a better person.
When we are done with life, life is done with us. How can we use this to our advantage? We can find and remind ourselves of our purpose. When we have a purpose life-long goal , it gives us a reason to get out of bed. It excites us to go after something bigger than ourselves. This requires dedication, focus, mental toughness, and best of all, personal growth. You came here, with this consciousness, to develop your compassion muscle, to learn how to live in appreciative joy, to be as kind to others as you are to your best self.
Taking care of your body is so hard because our bodies are complicated, miraculous machines that we barely understand. You are born with this thing we call instinct, so you know how to survive. Thank you! Getting better, excelling, reaching new heights, these all make us feel like we have a purpose and we are making the most of what we have. So, we must do hard things. Throughout history, people who have made the most difference in this world are people who have made tough choices, dealt with huge setbacks, overcome challenging obstacles, served in wars, rebuild broken cities, and pushed through.
They became great through trials. The testing produced success. The Christian sees a life that same way. We count it all joy to encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of our faith produces endurance. And endurance has its perfect result: feeling complete.
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